Abstinence: Education Vs. Ignorance

So today I read this article about how a teen got into trouble with her high school for protesting their abstinence only sex-ed program: Click here to read it.
This article reminded me very much of the type of education that I received in high school. My school had an abstinence only approach and in the eighth grade I distinctly remember a woman coming in telling us all to abstinent and then making every eighth grader in the audience sign an abstinence pledge. I've always thought that this approach was ridiculous. Not because I'm against abstinence and not because I think every high school student in the world is out having sex every second and I certainly don't advocate high school students having sexual relations.
However, I do realize that this is an unrealistic and ignorant approach to sex-ed. The school I went to had a very high pregnancy rate and I remember several of the girls I knew telling me that they had become pregnant because they didn't have access to birth control, didn't know anything about birth control or had taken birth control with their antibiotic thus causing it to fail. While yes, the only way to ensure 100% that you won't get pregnant is abstinence you cannot pretend that educating young women and men about birth control isn't positive.
 Educating high school students about birth control is essential. My high school tried to make it sound like sex killed more people than old age and that only women were guilty if they had sex before marriage. At one point I remember them showing us a video where a man was given a pair of clean sneakers by his wife and told her how much he loved her. Then another couple was together and the wife gave her husband old worn out sneakers and he replied "Ew, it looks like the whole football team has been in this," and then the video said this is what will happen if you don't wait to have sex.
Why does this only target girls? Why can't men be like old worn out sneakers too? Furthermore why are you shaming these young girls? Other than the fact that this video was just cruel it was ignorant. The better approach would to have been to say what you do with your body is your choice and everyone should respect that, regardless of personal religious views. As I said earlier I don't advocate high school students having sex but there should still be education about birth control, how to get it and how to use it. It would prevent so many pregnancies and they would be further educated about how their bodies actually work instead of just being told "These are your no-no parts, only touch them and let them be touched while you are cleaning yourself."